Aloha all,
Doing my very first FR since mid 2007... In case you didn't know I had a relationship for the past year and it was awesome! (no seriously I love relationships and I loved this girl, she's simply amazing).
Unfortunately for me (and for her I guess) I really don't want to settle down, get married and have kids etc at just 20 years of age, thus im back in the PUA game (and may end up marrying this girl in a few years, but for now I want to learn, and have some fun :D)
First night out was awesome to say the least, AA hasn't actually come back much (we'll as much as I'd expected) after all this time and I started doing sets pretty much immediately.
Started off with 3 guys and a girl, nice warm up set. Moved onto 2 girls, then another 2 girls, then 3 girls, then 2 girls again. All of the beginning 4 sets weren't very interesting, simply saying hello making new friends and being fun :) (but ultimatly not going anywhere). The last set was great, the girls were right into playing around and having fun (as opposed to getting weirded out by me as many girls do :p).
Hung around with those initial girls for a while before heading out to take a leak (the toilets were broken...). When I got back in met up with Shift and Highway (finally got into the club) and started chatting with highway to some random girls outside. They were fun, but I was still being chody.
The rest of the night was pretty much spent between that last group with highway, that set of 2 girls and trying to steal some guy back for a girl I met earlier who she liked...
Unfortunately both the 2 main sets went downhill from the beginning and I could feel myself getting more and more boring as time went on (bleh...). Which was the main downfall of the night. I seemed to be doing well initially, I'd come in happy, high energy and would be quite entertaining (I think looks helped initially too), but then as time went on with both sets the conversation started to droop, lose its energy and they started getting more and more boring.
On an awesome note: Tonights goal was to get over my "Ejecting too quicklyness" as I had always done before, where as soon as the conversation would start to droop (generally about 5 minutes in) I'd leave and go do another set, leaving me with not much at the end of the night.
So I did my goal! YAY! I'm also happy that I got out there after being out of the game for so long and did a multitude of sets :) Not only that, I didn't have a drop of alcohol so it was all sober and fun :)
Next up is my task of keeping the sets going but not letting the energy droop, or at least isolating and moving into comfort and being sexual by the time the energy level has dropped (probably a better idea). Isolating more would be a good idea and would definitely work well :D.
I'm taking steps forward to rebuilding my game from the ground up to be solid, stable and incredibly powerful ^^.
Have Fun
-- Solace
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Thursday, September 27, 2007
FR: Wheee
We'll tonight was a blast, despite being in a bad mood and being very tired (on the verge of collapsing) after getting home from work I went out. I'm doing this to improve myself and I've realized my emotions are just holding me back, telling me im too tired to go out. Sod them! shift is out and the newbies want me out so im going out!
So at 1am I head out to fridays. I've realized that I've been with a girl every day this week, yet I don't really like most of them (we'll I like them, not not a hell of a lot), thus I've had too much quantity and now im going to start working on quality, any girl who is below a 7 I will talk to but not number close (unless she has an awesome personality), as unfortunately I just don't have to time to see them :p.
First set is on the train, 2 black HB5's, nice little warmup set, just general fluff talk and conversation stuff don't think I threw in any routines (don't have time to game HB5's anymore ;)), one of the girls was 16 and using her sisters ID to try and get in, oh well, good luck to her :)
Get to fridays, met shift there, got cheap entry (wewt!) and meet up with the rest of the guys out tonight (its a newbie night :)). I love newbie kind of nights because they really get me into the mood to do sets, its like I have to prove to them that I can do this shit and im not all fluff. Thus I don't really have AA, just plow through sets and have fun, teaching others how its done, sort of like running my own bootcamp and I have to prove that i have the skills to seduce. Reminds me of the first night out with shift opening sets just to prove i could, which was both fun and eye-opening for me (because I always seem to have awesome game on these nights and on that night I actually netted 2 closes from 2 sets and I'm still seeing both those girls ^^).
The other time I've realized I do well is when im with someone else who's about my level of game and sarging, like actually opening sets and having fun, because when they do that I feel the urge to compete and like to see how well we can both do and push each other to being better and better. The times when my game is down is generally when im with others who are good but aren't approaching, or im with those better than me (although I love hanging out with those better than me so I can learn)
Anyway back to the sarge, met up with Dolce, GoldenGun and RandomDude (some guy not into gaming and very quiet, don't remember his name). Were just chatting when I turn around and spot a set of 2 cute asians, without thinking I just jump straight in and open with gay opener (mmm fallback routines) . fluff talk with them, make fun of them, and just have a good time, I find out their goals and dreams and also find out the weirdest things the've ever done (which come to think of it they never answered). It was a nice warmup set and I returned back to the guys in a nice warmed up state (I love sets that go past the opener, get me so into state). When I was taling to them and shift was winging the extra girl and her boyfriend (who came into the set half way through), my mind kept screaming to me "isolate! ISOLATE!" but for some reason I didn't (blehh), this is going to be something to work on.
I get some water and we start walking around, there is a nice 2 set so I shove dolce into it, he sits down straight away and starts gaming immediately (nice! most newbies shy away and run back to safety). We keep walking and I spy another 2set, this time I try and shove randomdude in (because goldengun has gone and randomdude is the only newbie left with me and shift), he doesn't budge and doesn't go in (blehh, boring).
Walk up to the other end, I open some girls with horse, they love it, then I bail (wtf)... yea im definitely improving on my not bailing but I've still got a little bit to go.
Go to the bar in the party area to get more water, find out who's party it is and give her a happy birthday hug and say hello to everyone, start talking to some random blonde next to me at the bar. She's into the conversation and then decides she's going to make her own drink at the bar, picks up a glass, grabs the raspberry cordial and some ice from behind the bar and makes herself a drink.... The barman comes over and just gives me the 0.o, wtf is that girl doing look, while she toddles away with her newly made concoction.
The guys point out that they think some other guy is gaming, I go over and open with vodka, find out he is gaming and then ask how he's doing (just got blown out). His friend comes back and he has to go so I say I'll finish the girls off for him.... then I bail... I realized looking back on it that I should have gone up to the girls and said something like "so how was that guys game?" "did you feel attracted?" etc and put him in the frame of being a pickup guy but not me. Next up would be "if a guy were to hit on you, what would be the best introduction line to use", then use that line they give to me on them ;)
This was my last set (only out for 1½ hours) and we walked over to the smoking area and discussed game for the rest of hte night (the whole 15 minutes of it), everyone had to bail on me so I went home as well.
Overall a good night, and im glad I went out and did something rather than just sleeping or sitting around like a chode at home. Next step in my game is more isolation game and running esp/strawberry fields/5 questions/cube etc in isolation. Along with this is opening more mixed sets (vodka opener works well) and also NOT BAILING (lol, I never get blown out, I just leave, like wtf...), these will be overcome in the following weeks.
Last thing, Is from stevepavlina podcast #9 (www.stevepavlina.com, it rules, go there), is a quote from one of the richest property guys int the world. He was explaining how he started in real estate and said this "for 2 years I rang up 25 companies a day, 5 days a week and asked for work", then he added "I swear to god, you can be the worst person in the world on the phone, you call 25 people a day for 2 years and someone will hire you". It applies so well to sarging, all you have to do is get out there, approach sets and have fun. I feel like doing something like a week straight of sarging, day sarging, night sarging etc. Just keep being social and always be talking no matter where I am, train, bus, shops everywhere. Playing the train game just catching the train back and forwards between my house and the city and talking to everyone on there for a full day.
Its like talking about those guys who work with steel beams in skyscrapers, the first 2 weeks are hell as your body tries to stop you from dying up on those beams (emotional mind doesn't understand there is no harm). Then after about 2 weeks of solid work it just becomes normal and you no longer feel fear. This is how to get over sarging fear, just talk non stop for 2 weeks to everyone, all day and all night and the fear will just disappear and it all becomes completely natural :)
Have Fun,
<3
-- Solace
So at 1am I head out to fridays. I've realized that I've been with a girl every day this week, yet I don't really like most of them (we'll I like them, not not a hell of a lot), thus I've had too much quantity and now im going to start working on quality, any girl who is below a 7 I will talk to but not number close (unless she has an awesome personality), as unfortunately I just don't have to time to see them :p.
First set is on the train, 2 black HB5's, nice little warmup set, just general fluff talk and conversation stuff don't think I threw in any routines (don't have time to game HB5's anymore ;)), one of the girls was 16 and using her sisters ID to try and get in, oh well, good luck to her :)
Get to fridays, met shift there, got cheap entry (wewt!) and meet up with the rest of the guys out tonight (its a newbie night :)). I love newbie kind of nights because they really get me into the mood to do sets, its like I have to prove to them that I can do this shit and im not all fluff. Thus I don't really have AA, just plow through sets and have fun, teaching others how its done, sort of like running my own bootcamp and I have to prove that i have the skills to seduce. Reminds me of the first night out with shift opening sets just to prove i could, which was both fun and eye-opening for me (because I always seem to have awesome game on these nights and on that night I actually netted 2 closes from 2 sets and I'm still seeing both those girls ^^).
The other time I've realized I do well is when im with someone else who's about my level of game and sarging, like actually opening sets and having fun, because when they do that I feel the urge to compete and like to see how well we can both do and push each other to being better and better. The times when my game is down is generally when im with others who are good but aren't approaching, or im with those better than me (although I love hanging out with those better than me so I can learn)
Anyway back to the sarge, met up with Dolce, GoldenGun and RandomDude (some guy not into gaming and very quiet, don't remember his name). Were just chatting when I turn around and spot a set of 2 cute asians, without thinking I just jump straight in and open with gay opener (mmm fallback routines) . fluff talk with them, make fun of them, and just have a good time, I find out their goals and dreams and also find out the weirdest things the've ever done (which come to think of it they never answered). It was a nice warmup set and I returned back to the guys in a nice warmed up state (I love sets that go past the opener, get me so into state). When I was taling to them and shift was winging the extra girl and her boyfriend (who came into the set half way through), my mind kept screaming to me "isolate! ISOLATE!" but for some reason I didn't (blehh), this is going to be something to work on.
I get some water and we start walking around, there is a nice 2 set so I shove dolce into it, he sits down straight away and starts gaming immediately (nice! most newbies shy away and run back to safety). We keep walking and I spy another 2set, this time I try and shove randomdude in (because goldengun has gone and randomdude is the only newbie left with me and shift), he doesn't budge and doesn't go in (blehh, boring).
Walk up to the other end, I open some girls with horse, they love it, then I bail (wtf)... yea im definitely improving on my not bailing but I've still got a little bit to go.
Go to the bar in the party area to get more water, find out who's party it is and give her a happy birthday hug and say hello to everyone, start talking to some random blonde next to me at the bar. She's into the conversation and then decides she's going to make her own drink at the bar, picks up a glass, grabs the raspberry cordial and some ice from behind the bar and makes herself a drink.... The barman comes over and just gives me the 0.o, wtf is that girl doing look, while she toddles away with her newly made concoction.
The guys point out that they think some other guy is gaming, I go over and open with vodka, find out he is gaming and then ask how he's doing (just got blown out). His friend comes back and he has to go so I say I'll finish the girls off for him.... then I bail... I realized looking back on it that I should have gone up to the girls and said something like "so how was that guys game?" "did you feel attracted?" etc and put him in the frame of being a pickup guy but not me. Next up would be "if a guy were to hit on you, what would be the best introduction line to use", then use that line they give to me on them ;)
This was my last set (only out for 1½ hours) and we walked over to the smoking area and discussed game for the rest of hte night (the whole 15 minutes of it), everyone had to bail on me so I went home as well.
Overall a good night, and im glad I went out and did something rather than just sleeping or sitting around like a chode at home. Next step in my game is more isolation game and running esp/strawberry fields/5 questions/cube etc in isolation. Along with this is opening more mixed sets (vodka opener works well) and also NOT BAILING (lol, I never get blown out, I just leave, like wtf...), these will be overcome in the following weeks.
Last thing, Is from stevepavlina podcast #9 (www.stevepavlina.com, it rules, go there), is a quote from one of the richest property guys int the world. He was explaining how he started in real estate and said this "for 2 years I rang up 25 companies a day, 5 days a week and asked for work", then he added "I swear to god, you can be the worst person in the world on the phone, you call 25 people a day for 2 years and someone will hire you". It applies so well to sarging, all you have to do is get out there, approach sets and have fun. I feel like doing something like a week straight of sarging, day sarging, night sarging etc. Just keep being social and always be talking no matter where I am, train, bus, shops everywhere. Playing the train game just catching the train back and forwards between my house and the city and talking to everyone on there for a full day.
Its like talking about those guys who work with steel beams in skyscrapers, the first 2 weeks are hell as your body tries to stop you from dying up on those beams (emotional mind doesn't understand there is no harm). Then after about 2 weeks of solid work it just becomes normal and you no longer feel fear. This is how to get over sarging fear, just talk non stop for 2 weeks to everyone, all day and all night and the fear will just disappear and it all becomes completely natural :)
Have Fun,
<3
-- Solace
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
mmm... filipino's
Wow my first ever actual field report in the 18 months I've been sarging! (the others don't count because my other reports were merely discussing certain topics from my FR, not an actual field report). Hopefully I can reflect on this in the near and far future to see how much I have improved and help myself get over sticking points and problems that im having.
The aim of the night was to fail, to get blown out, to feel the burn of rejection (which really isn't that much burn at all), unfortunately I failed at failing ^^.
Met up with shift and his girl at the start of the night in uber, relaxed, spent 5 minutes procrastinating while my AA blew through the roof :p, then finally approached a set. We went to the dance floor and talked to some brunette, stalled, fell back on gay opener (mmm a great fall back it is). Dance floor kino is so easy, just grabbed her on the shoulders, pulled her in and ran the opener. After the opener I bailed, I could list excuses but I won't, this was a warm up set :).
Went off the dance floor into the rest of the club looking to blow out on 2 more sets, didn't end up approaching a single set. Came back to shift defeated, so the 3 of us left the dance floor and went on the prowl. Next set was a 2 UG's (nice warm up because UG's generally don't give bitchiness), ran horse opener, talked for a tiny bit more, ejected, mmm I feel good finally sort of warming up (though not in much of a state yet). Shift approached HB5 and HB7.5, two Asians, ran gay opener then ejected, found out later they were waiting around for her boyfriend so there was little he could do anyway.
Went outside so shift and his girl could have a smoke. Shift told me to open the girl behind me telling her "she looks handsome tonight", im always up for completly random openers ("why are koreans so frigid" ;) ), so I took up the challenge. Opened her and got some confused look as she explained thats a very masculine word, I in turn pretended to not understand much english and that I was half taiwanese (for some reason girls seem to believe me, despite looking as far away from asian as anyone can be :p) , we chatted for a while about all kinds of shit, lots of kino,, clawing etc, while shift and his girl distracted her friend, eventually her friends had to leave so I # closed her (she was filipeno, my favourite asian, so couldn't let her go :)).
I like this opener now, seems to be a subtle neg along with a compliment in one :), nice work shift.
We walk inside waiting outside the toilets for shifts girl, I spy a HB8 standing there so decided to run the handsome opener on her. Taken aback at such a strange compliment she playfully tells me back "ohh you better not be telling me im masculine or I'll punch your face in". "So what if I am" I reply ;). She giggles a bit, we chat for a little bit longer but then bail when shifts girl gets out of the toilet (damn I see a pattern of early bails tonight).
We decide to test the opener a bit more for so far it has worked wonderfully.
We walk around a bit, I spy those girls shift opened earlier sitting down, walk up to the HB6 and tell her she looks very handsome tonight, and get a *deer in the headlights* look in return. So we keep moving :p.
Move back to the dance floor and dance with jazzy and highway for a bit (we met them earlier in the night but haven't talked much yet). I absolutely hate gaming girls on the dance floor, it feels so chody and weak, like you can't talk to them so you have to just grind on them and pray they like you back (about a 5-10% chance). Shift and his girl have to go soon so we decide to do one more set before they leave. I tell him to point out a set and I'll do it, so what does he do, he points out a 3 set of HB8's with a brunette HB9.5. I try to go in, but freeze sputter and die (I saw the 9.5 and immediately went :o and died, im going to have to practice gaming higher quality girls :p, blonde's are alright because I don't like them too much, but brunettes are my kryptonite)
Next because I failed on that one he decides to point out the 2nd hottest set (bloody shift :p), 2 blonde's HB8.5 and HB 9. I try to run horse on the HB8.5 but she turns away and ignores me, so I turn to her friend and explain the story. She's just like "uh.. ok.." and turns away. I felt good because i actually did it even though I got blown out :) mmm.
Shift leaves, so I'm now with Highway and jazzy, they are a bit drunk but thats ok, means less AA and more sets :D.
As im walking back around to find highway and jazzy I see my Filo girl talking to some other guy, and for some reason I just kept on walking, I really should have amog'd him and just walked off with her, but didn't, because at the time my excuse was that I was finding jazzy and highway, not re-gaming her, this is something I've really got to practice.
I meet up with jazzy and highway again at the bar, jazzy said something about the blonde behind me giving me IOI's but I think he was just trying to amp up my state :p, as soon as she wasn't surrounded highwayjumped right in, seemed to go alright but then they walked off. As were walking back to the table I open some girl with horse while jazzy opened one of her friends (this was a 4 set), got her giggling a little bit and having fun, I asked her to introduce me to her friends and just as she's about to jazzy just walks off (??), so I tell her I have to go and walk off after him, think he just left after running out of material (as I often do, so I can't complain :p).
When I get back to the table highway decides he's going to wing with me. So we go off in search of sets.
I open a 2set HB8.5 brunette and a HB7 blonde, run horse on brunette but highway doesn't seem to be talking to the blonde, so I attempt to pull her into the story too and explain it to both of them at once (this actually worked rather well and from now on im going to try this a lot more in the future, is making sure everyone is listening and nobody is left out before running a routine/story). She laughs, tells me the horse is probably her sister and then gets mad at me for picking on her ^^, blonde dies out of the conversation and I attempt to bring her back in but brunette tells me she's in a bad mood, eventually after a minute or two longer blonde pulls them both away.
Next up I reopen the Asians shift opened at the start, I go for the 6 and highway's on the 8, go for a while and im getting into the conversation when I notice highway got blown out. the 6 tells me her friend is waiting for her boyfriend so doesn't want to be seen talking to other guys, thus the reason for the blowout.
I decide to head off home at this point, on a highpoint from doing many sets and just getting rid of my AA :D, though really I think its because I was in my comfort zone and didn't want to leave, I'm going to push more and more and not give a shit about how good I feel this weekend.
Overall during the night I didn't really feel worried or anxious (after the # close) and sort of felt a sense of "this is natural" like I was at a party with friends, which I guess was a really cool thing, it was so simple that it didn't even feel as if I was properly sarging, as if I was wimping out somehow (even though I wasn't :p)
The other thing I see other's write about a lot but I seem to have ignored it is kino, As far as I can remember I had good kino, touching when talking, getting close, hands around her shoulders etc in nearly every set, though I can't quite recall because its becoming more of a natural thing rather than me consciously doing it, so if your reading this as a newbie remember "kino is god, with kino you get laid, without kino your just a friend" always remember this, the more kino the better.
Have Fun,
Solace
The aim of the night was to fail, to get blown out, to feel the burn of rejection (which really isn't that much burn at all), unfortunately I failed at failing ^^.
Met up with shift and his girl at the start of the night in uber, relaxed, spent 5 minutes procrastinating while my AA blew through the roof :p, then finally approached a set. We went to the dance floor and talked to some brunette, stalled, fell back on gay opener (mmm a great fall back it is). Dance floor kino is so easy, just grabbed her on the shoulders, pulled her in and ran the opener. After the opener I bailed, I could list excuses but I won't, this was a warm up set :).
Went off the dance floor into the rest of the club looking to blow out on 2 more sets, didn't end up approaching a single set. Came back to shift defeated, so the 3 of us left the dance floor and went on the prowl. Next set was a 2 UG's (nice warm up because UG's generally don't give bitchiness), ran horse opener, talked for a tiny bit more, ejected, mmm I feel good finally sort of warming up (though not in much of a state yet). Shift approached HB5 and HB7.5, two Asians, ran gay opener then ejected, found out later they were waiting around for her boyfriend so there was little he could do anyway.
Went outside so shift and his girl could have a smoke. Shift told me to open the girl behind me telling her "she looks handsome tonight", im always up for completly random openers ("why are koreans so frigid" ;) ), so I took up the challenge. Opened her and got some confused look as she explained thats a very masculine word, I in turn pretended to not understand much english and that I was half taiwanese (for some reason girls seem to believe me, despite looking as far away from asian as anyone can be :p) , we chatted for a while about all kinds of shit, lots of kino,, clawing etc, while shift and his girl distracted her friend, eventually her friends had to leave so I # closed her (she was filipeno, my favourite asian, so couldn't let her go :)).
I like this opener now, seems to be a subtle neg along with a compliment in one :), nice work shift.
We walk inside waiting outside the toilets for shifts girl, I spy a HB8 standing there so decided to run the handsome opener on her. Taken aback at such a strange compliment she playfully tells me back "ohh you better not be telling me im masculine or I'll punch your face in". "So what if I am" I reply ;). She giggles a bit, we chat for a little bit longer but then bail when shifts girl gets out of the toilet (damn I see a pattern of early bails tonight).
We decide to test the opener a bit more for so far it has worked wonderfully.
We walk around a bit, I spy those girls shift opened earlier sitting down, walk up to the HB6 and tell her she looks very handsome tonight, and get a *deer in the headlights* look in return. So we keep moving :p.
Move back to the dance floor and dance with jazzy and highway for a bit (we met them earlier in the night but haven't talked much yet). I absolutely hate gaming girls on the dance floor, it feels so chody and weak, like you can't talk to them so you have to just grind on them and pray they like you back (about a 5-10% chance). Shift and his girl have to go soon so we decide to do one more set before they leave. I tell him to point out a set and I'll do it, so what does he do, he points out a 3 set of HB8's with a brunette HB9.5. I try to go in, but freeze sputter and die (I saw the 9.5 and immediately went :o and died, im going to have to practice gaming higher quality girls :p, blonde's are alright because I don't like them too much, but brunettes are my kryptonite)
Next because I failed on that one he decides to point out the 2nd hottest set (bloody shift :p), 2 blonde's HB8.5 and HB 9. I try to run horse on the HB8.5 but she turns away and ignores me, so I turn to her friend and explain the story. She's just like "uh.. ok.." and turns away. I felt good because i actually did it even though I got blown out :) mmm.
Shift leaves, so I'm now with Highway and jazzy, they are a bit drunk but thats ok, means less AA and more sets :D.
As im walking back around to find highway and jazzy I see my Filo girl talking to some other guy, and for some reason I just kept on walking, I really should have amog'd him and just walked off with her, but didn't, because at the time my excuse was that I was finding jazzy and highway, not re-gaming her, this is something I've really got to practice.
I meet up with jazzy and highway again at the bar, jazzy said something about the blonde behind me giving me IOI's but I think he was just trying to amp up my state :p, as soon as she wasn't surrounded highwayjumped right in, seemed to go alright but then they walked off. As were walking back to the table I open some girl with horse while jazzy opened one of her friends (this was a 4 set), got her giggling a little bit and having fun, I asked her to introduce me to her friends and just as she's about to jazzy just walks off (??), so I tell her I have to go and walk off after him, think he just left after running out of material (as I often do, so I can't complain :p).
When I get back to the table highway decides he's going to wing with me. So we go off in search of sets.
I open a 2set HB8.5 brunette and a HB7 blonde, run horse on brunette but highway doesn't seem to be talking to the blonde, so I attempt to pull her into the story too and explain it to both of them at once (this actually worked rather well and from now on im going to try this a lot more in the future, is making sure everyone is listening and nobody is left out before running a routine/story). She laughs, tells me the horse is probably her sister and then gets mad at me for picking on her ^^, blonde dies out of the conversation and I attempt to bring her back in but brunette tells me she's in a bad mood, eventually after a minute or two longer blonde pulls them both away.
Next up I reopen the Asians shift opened at the start, I go for the 6 and highway's on the 8, go for a while and im getting into the conversation when I notice highway got blown out. the 6 tells me her friend is waiting for her boyfriend so doesn't want to be seen talking to other guys, thus the reason for the blowout.
I decide to head off home at this point, on a highpoint from doing many sets and just getting rid of my AA :D, though really I think its because I was in my comfort zone and didn't want to leave, I'm going to push more and more and not give a shit about how good I feel this weekend.
Overall during the night I didn't really feel worried or anxious (after the # close) and sort of felt a sense of "this is natural" like I was at a party with friends, which I guess was a really cool thing, it was so simple that it didn't even feel as if I was properly sarging, as if I was wimping out somehow (even though I wasn't :p)
The other thing I see other's write about a lot but I seem to have ignored it is kino, As far as I can remember I had good kino, touching when talking, getting close, hands around her shoulders etc in nearly every set, though I can't quite recall because its becoming more of a natural thing rather than me consciously doing it, so if your reading this as a newbie remember "kino is god, with kino you get laid, without kino your just a friend" always remember this, the more kino the better.
Have Fun,
Solace
Sunday, August 26, 2007
The Beginning of An Era
Hey all,
We'll this is my first post here, I've decided to start blogging about my PUA chronicles instead of simply mentally storing each sarge and recalling it from my mind (which has a bad habit of forgetting absolutely everything, especially while drinking...). That way I and I guess you can reflect on what I have done right, things I need to improve, and various different technologies that i have learnt to improve myself and you can use in your life to help improve yourself and your game.
To start off with im going to give you a rundown of where i am ATM. I've just come over another one of those huge decisions in my life (we'll it may shape my life for years to come). I've decided to forgo a relationship in order to improve my PUA skills and social skills in general, and it wasn't an easy decision, because this girl seriously has an amazing personality and its a personality I've been seeking for quite a while. I'm seeing 3 girls at the moment both who have their good sides and bad sides and all who I love to hang around and spend time with, however I must improve myself and get myself out of this rut that I oh so often dig myself.
It seems in my life I get above average in every field then stop, I just do fuck all for a while on that part of my life for a while. I realized the other day that the reason for this is that im relying far too much on my emotions to get ahead in life, my emotions empower me to make massive changes when I feel bad about something, but as soon as I feel good about it (but not amazingly awesome), my emotions stop giving me that feedback and my logical mind doesn't yet take over and power me foward to above above average and into the expert realms of any fields.
This has been seen with the gym, I started back in march 2006, gained 15KG by febrary 2007, then gained fuck all since. This is because before I didn't like my body and really wanted to be bigger, but now that I am an allright size I don't feel emotionally compelled to get bigger even though I really want to. My goal is to get to 80KG by the end of thsi year, 90KG by the end of next and 100KG by christmas 2009. By realizing my emotions aren't doing it for me and my logics going to have to take over last week I think I can make it (but otherwise I would have been doomed for). Im going to be working incredibly hard but I can do it, I can make that magic 80KG mark, just need to eat a fuckload and work out all the time. I also want to be cut, I can nearly see my abs now and soon the'll be showing through with just a bit more excercise :), don't want to be 80KG and be tubby, 10% BF or less for me :D.
We'll anyway thats enough rambling for me, have fun, hope you learn something here (or teach me something in my comments, question my motives, pull holes in my theories and I'll be grateful because it helps me learn and this helps me grow as a person), slander and flaming isn't accepted but constructive criticism rules, so dish it out in large servings (with less criticism than constrution preferrably)
Anyway this is me singing of,
Have fun,
-- Solace
We'll this is my first post here, I've decided to start blogging about my PUA chronicles instead of simply mentally storing each sarge and recalling it from my mind (which has a bad habit of forgetting absolutely everything, especially while drinking...). That way I and I guess you can reflect on what I have done right, things I need to improve, and various different technologies that i have learnt to improve myself and you can use in your life to help improve yourself and your game.
To start off with im going to give you a rundown of where i am ATM. I've just come over another one of those huge decisions in my life (we'll it may shape my life for years to come). I've decided to forgo a relationship in order to improve my PUA skills and social skills in general, and it wasn't an easy decision, because this girl seriously has an amazing personality and its a personality I've been seeking for quite a while. I'm seeing 3 girls at the moment both who have their good sides and bad sides and all who I love to hang around and spend time with, however I must improve myself and get myself out of this rut that I oh so often dig myself.
It seems in my life I get above average in every field then stop, I just do fuck all for a while on that part of my life for a while. I realized the other day that the reason for this is that im relying far too much on my emotions to get ahead in life, my emotions empower me to make massive changes when I feel bad about something, but as soon as I feel good about it (but not amazingly awesome), my emotions stop giving me that feedback and my logical mind doesn't yet take over and power me foward to above above average and into the expert realms of any fields.
This has been seen with the gym, I started back in march 2006, gained 15KG by febrary 2007, then gained fuck all since. This is because before I didn't like my body and really wanted to be bigger, but now that I am an allright size I don't feel emotionally compelled to get bigger even though I really want to. My goal is to get to 80KG by the end of thsi year, 90KG by the end of next and 100KG by christmas 2009. By realizing my emotions aren't doing it for me and my logics going to have to take over last week I think I can make it (but otherwise I would have been doomed for). Im going to be working incredibly hard but I can do it, I can make that magic 80KG mark, just need to eat a fuckload and work out all the time. I also want to be cut, I can nearly see my abs now and soon the'll be showing through with just a bit more excercise :), don't want to be 80KG and be tubby, 10% BF or less for me :D.
We'll anyway thats enough rambling for me, have fun, hope you learn something here (or teach me something in my comments, question my motives, pull holes in my theories and I'll be grateful because it helps me learn and this helps me grow as a person), slander and flaming isn't accepted but constructive criticism rules, so dish it out in large servings (with less criticism than constrution preferrably)
Anyway this is me singing of,
Have fun,
-- Solace
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